Much more than my surface

In this day and age and pretty much since the beginning of time people were initially seen for their outward appearance.
Women in particular have been the focus of this.
We are always renowned for our beauty and how graceful we are.
And then we are remembered by our intelligence.

Its like people work their way in to getting to know the real you from the outside in.

For women it takes a bit longer for people to put together a full work up of who you are because they sometimes are so enamored by your outward appearance.
But if you are not pretty we automatically assume you are smart in some situations because you have to make up for your lack or appeasing looks.

I know this sounds super weird but think it through.
When you describe a woman you usually tell about her appearance and then her accomplishments.
Unless she isn't all that pretty and then you say she has a nice personality.

What a screwed up world we live in.

An Australian News Anchor Named Karl Stefanovic wore the same suit jacket for a year
AND NO ONE NOTICED!
Now if a woman did that we would be up in arms and we would have noticed that right away.
But it just goes to show you how much more woman are criticized in the media for their appearance.

We have a harder ladder to climb than that male gender.
Our beauty is a curse and a gift in a way.
Its a double edged sword.

But this whole thought process came about because last night I was out with some friends at Bingo night at Falcs. We met up with some friends after and there were some new faces in the group.
Well anyways this one guy was talking to me and he remembered me but I didn't remember him.
The reason he remembered was that I was going out with this guy and he didnt quite understand why.

Now just as a forewarning, this relationship he was talking about was a good relationship for the time.
It was a good almost 2 years together. He was there for me when I needed him the most. He was my first love. This is a big deal because things don't usually work out for me but for the time being that worked for me.

But it made me go on this tangent about how I am so much more than my previous relationships.
I am so much more than the clothes I wear.
I am so much more than the appearance I have been given.
I am so much more than the awards I have accomplished.
I am so much more than the mountains I have conquered.
I am so much more than the adventures I have been on.
I am so much more than the mistakes I have made.
I am so much more than the men I have found slight bouts of companionship with.
I am so much more than the friendships I have made and those that I may have neglected.

A person is multifaceted.
We are so much more than one thing in this life.
And I would like people to know me for the accomplishments I've made and the good things I've done in this world over the appearance I have.
I know I am cute but honestly I am so awkward when it comes to compliments about my appearance because they are so easy to do and so shallow.
And I like to give genuine compliments and when I receive one about my appearance I cant but question about a persons intentions.
And then I feel like I should reciprocate the compliments but I don't want to put them in the same situation.
So its a whole big mess.

If you want to make an impression start up a conversation about something that I am passionate about. Challenge me to a conversation to more than just what I look like.
Now that would be unique and wonderful!

Make me use my mind versus having to rely on my looks.
Now that would be something.