Acquaintances.

Acquaintances.
Friends.
People we know casually or not so casually.
Pals.

We all like having friends.
But what happens when a friend moves into the significant other category or vice versa.
When a significant other becomes a friend is one of the most awkward and not well explained intricacies of life.

In my life I like to keep things organized.
There's friends.
Co-workers.
Teachers.
Girls
Boys.
Ladies
Gentlemen
Guys i'd like to date.
Guys that would like to date me.
Professor friends.
People I say hi to occasionally.
People that say hi to me.
People that say hi to me that I don't know but they know me...somehow.
Ex's I still talk to.
Ex's I used to talk to.
Ex's that talk to me.
Ex's I have completely shut out.
Guys I had a thing for for a few days.
Guys I had a crush on for a while.
Guys I went on a date with.
Guys I fell for.
Guys I had a thing for and then got over because I realized they are a douche bag.
And then there's family but that's too complicated and crazy to go into.

So there are many people that can go in multiple categories.
But when they move major defining levels is when things get hairy sometimes.
Like from crush/significant other to friend.
Theres still resounding feelings there and the waters are not always the clearest to either parties.
Yes I do have to say, being friends after is better than totally shutting them out, but the process is more difficult.
How to do you move from significant others to friends with out hurting each other?
Some people need space.
Some need food.
Some just want to jump right into friendship.
Some need to cut all ties.

Its not going to be easy, but in the end, usually its worth it.

My best friend in the entire world that I've know 18 years was my very first ex boyfriend. It was in 7th grade but still, we stayed friends after.
I couldn't imagine my life with out him

But the problem is that sometimes in the broken up relationship that has turned into a friendship, one person still longs to get back together. and the other moves one.
This can be hard when you are supposed to be "just friends".
And the problem with myself is that when I enter into a relationship I commit so quick to that person.
If they are right for me, I fall so hard and so that's why its difficult for me at least to try to move into the friend zone.
If I fall for someone its hard for me to get back up.
I don't fall often but when I do, I fall hard.
But i'm now trying to cushion my fall a bit.
Don't fall so hard that each time it doesn't work out, it doesn't hurt as much.


I'm not perfect, and i'm certainly still trying to figure out the male persuasion.
But i'm going to try to forage new friendships with old people i've lost contact with because of them moving to the friend zone or a break up.

You cant shut yourself off forever.
So lets try to be friends with our ex's