And I will not be afraid of your scars

We all have scars.
Whether they be emotional or legitimate scars.
I have both.
Most people have both.
Or at least epic people have both.

But I think we forget sometimes that other people have scars too.
That other people come with baggage just like us.
That each of us at sometime or another has had our heart broken.

But what I've learned over these past few months is to not be afraid of the scars.
They show character. They show strength.
There's a quote that says "Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you."
And I've found that this is a good way to look at scars.
You are stronger than the force that tried to hurt you.

And I've found in order to accept myself fully I too have to accept my scars.
The deep emotional ones that are healing with each passing day or the physical ones that I've had for just about my entire life that grow and fade with the years but are still present.

I think that true love is being able to accept someone for all their scars and their history whether it be a fairy tale or not.

Maybe i'm in this deep methodical mood about love because valentines day is tomorrow, and I've revamped how I think about love and what a happily ever after looks like entirely in the past few months.

If you haven't read my opinion piece for the Indy about love and happily ever afters, you need to!

I have found indicators on whether or not a relationship will work out.
The first is if he or she automatically  starts a conversation or early in the conversation says something about how hot you are, that's a red flag.
The will only ever see you as a piece of ass and not as a real person.

If they actually want to get to know you and don't say anything about your appearance for a really long time, that's a good sign.

Because believe it or not but conversations solely about each others appearance get really boring really quick.
But intelligent conversations can go for days.

So my wish for you my dear blog reader, whomever you may be or wherever you are reading this, find someone that is up to your standards.
Don't settle for something that is easy.
Because who wants to listen to an easy love story.
We love the ones that are dramatic and full of ups and downs.
If love was so easy we'd just end up with the person we first fell in love with, and that's no fun if there isn't a back story and luggage and scars to the characters.
So have a complicated love story dear reader.


Also, FEEL BETTER MORMOR! I LOVE YOU AND YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! I LOVE HAVING YOUR BROWN EYES AND YOU ARE THE BEST !